“Eat, Pray, Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert
Sunday, November 16th, 2008
I feel like one the last people on earth to read this book. I remember when it came out a few years back and it was everywhere. It seemed to be almost an instant best seller the moment it was published, and now I can see why, but I’ll get to that in a minute.
I received Eat, Pray, Love as a Christmas gift from my sister. Books, or gift cards for books, are always, always, forever and always, a gift that I will love. I received the book and February and didn’t get around to picking it up for good until this summer — which is actually quite quick. The length of time a book stays on my To Be Read shelf (and I do have a very literal shelf like this) is ususally much longer than that. Sometimes it’s just the physical act of acquiring a book that brings me joy. Finding the time to read it thereafter can be…difficult.
So I started the book this past summer, and it took many months to finish. Work, life, sleep all these things got in my way, yes, but I think it was also helped along by the structure of the book. Eat, Pray Love, is at it’s heart, the story of Liz Gilbert’s time spent travelling in Italy, India and Indonesia (purposefully all “I” countries?) So, automatically, the book is divided into 3 parts. Each part then divided into 36 sub-parts, so 36 vognettes for Italy, 36 for India and 36 for Indonesia. Gilbert explains to us that this is done to model japa malas, a string of pray beads that are apparently quite common in India. Each set has 108 beads on it. Thus, 108 mini stories in Eat, Pray Love. This makes it very easy to consume the book in bite sized pieces. I’ll have a piece of Eat, Pray, Love, today please.
So why do I think this book was such a great best seller? Well, the most obvious answer is that it’s a good book, which is very true. But I also suspect envy had a whole lot to do with it.
Think about it. Despite the fact that what prompted Gilbert’s journey was divorce, depression and despair, what she describes in Eat, Pray, Love, is the ultimate in wish fullfillment. 30-something women, leaves behind her life of sadness and takes a year long journey around the world. Not only that, but she gets paid by her publisher to do so. Yep, gets paid to write for a living — well enough to get generous advances on her books –, experiences these fabulous countries, and at the end of it all, well, I won’t spoil it for you.
But man was there ever a few moments I wanted to fling the book across the room in jealousy. It seemed rather incongruous, really. Here I was piggy-backing on this woman’s journey for self, for peace, and I’m overcome by jealousy just reading it. Eventually I had to tell myself that if her life was one that I truly wanted for myself, well, it was up to me to create it. That for every risk taking, travel by the seat of their pants, need to actually move to go on a journey, there are those of us who crave stability, who work our unexciting jobs that keep the world moving. Those of us who journeys take place inside ourselves, rather than the external world. And we’re equally a valuable asset. The ying to their yang, after all.
And it helps that Gilbert is remarkably frank about how lucky she is. Acknowledgement goes a long way.
Ultimately, I really enjoyed the book, despite my pettiness. While it didn’t grip me in the way of my super-loved favourite books (non-fiction rarely does), it asserted itself quietly and made a place on my mental shelf of Books I Will Read Again.
So what was my favourite part? I thought it would be Italy. I was there this spring, so I imagined that it would be easy to picture and relate to. In fact it may have been too easy to picture and relate to. It wasn’t boring, but it wasn’t as good at drawing me in as India and Indonesia. Perhaps there was a small sense of “Been there, done that.”
India was my absolute favourite. The India portion of her book takes on the spirituality portion of her journey. Gilbert spends 3 months in an ashram learning meditation and yogi spirituality. It was wonderful. While I can’t see myself ever doing the same thing, there are so many parts of her spiritual journey that I can relate to. I learned so much in this part of the book, from chants to mantras to meditation techniques.
And India brought to my attention a very simple idea that Gilbert quotes in her book. I actually had to put the book down after I read it, because it so simple, so obvious, but I had never seen or heard it articulated before. And it is this:
If praying is the act of talking to god, than meditation is the act of *listening* to him.
Wow.
If that is the one idea I take from this book, the read will have been worth it. I know that thought, that idea, will stay with me for a lifetime.